Anger is inevitable. We deal with it every week and all throughout our lives. Someone will do or say something that makes you mad and it can ruin your day. My mom always says that we can’t control how people act, only how we respond. While lashing out at someone, or punching them may seem like a good thing at the time, it is important to take a bresther before you do something that you really don’t want to.
I had a fancy event coming up that me and my sister were going to attend. That morning I had laid out the dress, shoes, and necklace that I wanted to wear. Granted, my sister and I sometimes share clothes, but it was obvious that I had called dibs. I even curled my hair! For those of you who don’t know, I have VERY thick hair that takes forever for me to do anything to it.
As the night approached, my sister struggled to find an outfit. She finally found a dress but couldn't find any shoes to go with it. Minutes before we had to leave, she insisted I change. Now, she is older, but there was no way I was going to let her take my outfit. On top of that, I had worn the other dress the week before. Looking back on this now, I’m laughing because it seems so silly, but in the moment, I was mad. I ended up having to change out of my dress. I was upset. I didn’t talk to her the whole trip there.
That’s when my mom texted me. She reminded me about my blog, asking what would SimplyMaliaK tell someone to do. Now, y'all know I’m not perfect, but I do try to be the best version of myself, and this definitely wasn’t it. I knew that I would tell Y’all to look at the bigger picture and forgive, but it’s so much harder to do then to write!
Nevertheless I had a good time at the event, and I forgave her. My dress still looked good and I had fun! To her, finding the perfect outfit was important, and it seems like such a small issue now. I still remember how mad I was though. Anger can be so blinding from us seeing the big picture. When we’re mad, we need to take a deep breath, step back, and look up. It can be hard to do this in the moment, I know!
Sometimes just praying can help. Getting your feelings out can help you deal with them, and also see what is bigger than your issue. We can also learn so much from God. He’s the king of forgiveness. We are such sinners and no matter how hard we try, we will always be.
Amazingly, His love for us is so great! He is constantly forgiving us for our many mistakes. If you are struggling to forgive someone, reading your Bible can be a great help. I know, I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but reading about how others overcome their struggles can help you with your own.
If you ever have anything that you are struggling with and want to talk about, you can always talk to me! It’s been proven to help with it and although I’m not perfect, I will try to help.
Remember: Live Simply, Laugh Often, Love Deeply